I just want to piece together what Carl Jung, John Grinder and Albert Einstein all said that seems to flow together into one concept.
Carl Jung said that "what you resist will persist." Meaning that whatever you are trying to fight against, resist will continue to be present.
John Grinder said "you cannot stop doing something, you can only replace it with doing something else. You can't just say 'stop hitting your baby sister,' you have to say 'go and pick up the news paper from the end of the drive." John explains that what your presently doing can't be stopped, it must be replaced with something else otherwise the only other option is to keep on doing what you were doing.
Albert Einstein said that "energy never get destroyed, it can only change form." So, you can't just delete parts of the universe you can only change it into something else.
Piecing it all together - the theme explains that if you are resisting something it's only option is to carry on as it is. Until it is given the option to be/do something else, it's only option is to be/do as it currently is. For example, you keep telling your friend to stop eating crap because it is bad for them. They keep eating that way even though you tell them about all the dire consequences. Until there is an alternative way to eat they will continue to follow the same pattern. So you tell your friend 'try this avocado salad,' or 'wow, try this raw pudding,' and tell them about all the amazing benefits it has. You are no longer resisting the crap eating anymore, you are persisting in another direction.
The term 'whatever you resist, persists' is a resisting term because it does not give an alternative to the current state. The term 'Whatever you insist instead of what you resist will becomes what persists,' has an alternative offering of other opportunities.
I hope this makes sense,
Sebastian
Sunday 10 October 2010
Thursday 1 July 2010
EFT & Ho'oponopono
In therapeutic interventions it is essential to work with the client in the path of least resistance. This is how Milton Erickson worked. They say (whoever they maybe) that whatever you resist - persists. So what ever problem someone has, if they or the therapist resists it, it will persist. I use the analogy of putting on a seat belt. When you pull on the seat belt really hard it becomes stuck and it can not reach the belt plug. No matter how much you try to pull with force it never wants to come unstuck. When you then relieve the seat belt back a bit then try pulling gently towards the belt plug it works. When the therapist does not understand and appreciate the clients problem then the intervention already has resistance. When understanding the problem and then accepting it with a deep sense of peace, forgiveness and gratitude the problem seems to fall way.
This is a brief description of a Hawaiian technique called Ho'oponopono. This involves the client "clearing" their past memories (references and/or beliefs). A presupposition of Ho'oponopono is that you are responsible for everything that comes into your experience. It also says that every problem is just a repetition of a memory. I believe this means that references/beliefs that we hold consciously or unconsciously we express. Because we hold these "programs" we are responsible for them. When people complain and resist the problems that are held in their unconscious as beliefs they either persist or get reinforced. The Ho'oponopono technique is created to target the problem and "clear" it to "zero point." This means that the therapist/client approaches the problem with the opposition of resistance - acceptance. When targeting the problem they are focusing on the unconscious references and beliefs and treating them with love, forgiveness, and gratitude. What this does is recode the references and beliefs to a "zero point" of where they have no power anymore. In this void the affirmation "I love you. I'm sorry. Forgive me. Thank you." replaces the old references and beliefs with a deep sense of peace and love. In this state the client is fully resourceful and able to create a powerful alternative to their old pattern.
This therapeutic pattern is similar to EFT and the Sedona Method. Each one targets the references and beliefs (and the emotions anchored to them) and "clears" them with an affirmation and pattern interrupt.
This is a brief description of a Hawaiian technique called Ho'oponopono. This involves the client "clearing" their past memories (references and/or beliefs). A presupposition of Ho'oponopono is that you are responsible for everything that comes into your experience. It also says that every problem is just a repetition of a memory. I believe this means that references/beliefs that we hold consciously or unconsciously we express. Because we hold these "programs" we are responsible for them. When people complain and resist the problems that are held in their unconscious as beliefs they either persist or get reinforced. The Ho'oponopono technique is created to target the problem and "clear" it to "zero point." This means that the therapist/client approaches the problem with the opposition of resistance - acceptance. When targeting the problem they are focusing on the unconscious references and beliefs and treating them with love, forgiveness, and gratitude. What this does is recode the references and beliefs to a "zero point" of where they have no power anymore. In this void the affirmation "I love you. I'm sorry. Forgive me. Thank you." replaces the old references and beliefs with a deep sense of peace and love. In this state the client is fully resourceful and able to create a powerful alternative to their old pattern.
This therapeutic pattern is similar to EFT and the Sedona Method. Each one targets the references and beliefs (and the emotions anchored to them) and "clears" them with an affirmation and pattern interrupt.
Friday 18 June 2010
Fulfillment Studies
The book The Happiness Hypothesis is on the way to my doorstep soon. I heard about the book and I wanted to read it right then and there. The reason is because the author Jonathan Haidt explains happiness and fulfillment in a way that makes complete sense to me. Understanding the six human needs also it brings a complete picture into sight.
While I am learning NLP I go online and talk to people on forums on different subjects of NLP. While offering my opinion someone said that I seemed like someone who treats NLP as something I do rather than something I am. That people use NLP as a way of life and a state. As far as I agree with this person it got me thinking. There are many NLP practitioners that learn, utilize and teach NLP without the consideration that there is more to learn outside the world of NLP. It's just one technology. I remember Paul Mckenna writing about Maxwell Maltz who created the psychocybernetics technologies. This is indeed very valuable and works very well with NLP. My point is that although I am not massively experienced in NLP I have a great pursuit of what it takes to live a life of dreams. Not just help people to overcome but to direct them into a momentous life of fulfillment. I would love to have a great life story of adventure, love, contribution, magic and mystery. I believe most people do. How do you do that? I believe the answer goes beyond NLP. I see master NLP practitioners who still don't have the life they want. Whats missing?
Fair love, Seb
While I am learning NLP I go online and talk to people on forums on different subjects of NLP. While offering my opinion someone said that I seemed like someone who treats NLP as something I do rather than something I am. That people use NLP as a way of life and a state. As far as I agree with this person it got me thinking. There are many NLP practitioners that learn, utilize and teach NLP without the consideration that there is more to learn outside the world of NLP. It's just one technology. I remember Paul Mckenna writing about Maxwell Maltz who created the psychocybernetics technologies. This is indeed very valuable and works very well with NLP. My point is that although I am not massively experienced in NLP I have a great pursuit of what it takes to live a life of dreams. Not just help people to overcome but to direct them into a momentous life of fulfillment. I would love to have a great life story of adventure, love, contribution, magic and mystery. I believe most people do. How do you do that? I believe the answer goes beyond NLP. I see master NLP practitioners who still don't have the life they want. Whats missing?
Fair love, Seb
Thursday 27 May 2010
Modalities
I have been studying NLP recently and the amount there is to learn is amazing. I have been learning about mental strategies and representational systems recently with dip into the meta model. I get stuck in a rut from time to time because my desire and motivation to achieve a goal dials down a bit. There are motivation techniques in NLP like the visual submodality strategy which I wasn't getting much effect out of. I read earlier that people with a internal digital representation usually are less emotional. I tested this earlier by thinking of my values i.e freedom, and thought about it only using visual images. The emotional response was far more effective than having digital as the leading representational system.
While studying NLP and have Anthony Robbin's Human Needs Psychology fresh in my mind I think I have come up with a clear model to explain the general operation of humans.
At all time our brain is evaluating what things mean and what to do. Your brain codes all thought in sensory modalities (KAVOG). Your brain also associates meaning to those modalities. The meanings are the beliefs and values. Beliefs and values can be conscious or unconscious. Your beliefs and values are a map to meet the needs.
For example if you are afraid of public speaking you generally get an anxious feeling when thinking about it or being in that situation. Your mind evaluates what you believe and value about the situation. You believe that when you stand up in front of all those people you feel uncertain that you are going to connect with the audience and you feel more certain that you are going to mess up. The fear of judgment is the violation of love/connection and significance. If you are certain you are going to be judged negatively (which you may not be) you are going to feel very uncertain about how your going to perform on stage.
If you value comfort as an emotion you will want to hide way and stay certain you will not experience any discomfort. This is communicated to your conscious from your unconscious via internal representational systems. Mainly:
Visual (the images you see in your mind's eye)
Auditory (the sounds and tones you hear inside your mind)
Kinesthetic (body awareness, touch, balance, emotions)
Your map (beliefs and values) is designed by you for you to meet as much needs as possible. People have some great maps that support them while other have maps that does not support them. This process leads to a decision which fundamentally comes down to avoiding pain (violation of needs) and/or gaining pleasure (fulfilling needs). Some people violate some needs to gain other needs.
I hope this makes sense and I probably made some mistakes in my writing but I'm learning.
Love,
Seb
While studying NLP and have Anthony Robbin's Human Needs Psychology fresh in my mind I think I have come up with a clear model to explain the general operation of humans.
At all time our brain is evaluating what things mean and what to do. Your brain codes all thought in sensory modalities (KAVOG). Your brain also associates meaning to those modalities. The meanings are the beliefs and values. Beliefs and values can be conscious or unconscious. Your beliefs and values are a map to meet the needs.
For example if you are afraid of public speaking you generally get an anxious feeling when thinking about it or being in that situation. Your mind evaluates what you believe and value about the situation. You believe that when you stand up in front of all those people you feel uncertain that you are going to connect with the audience and you feel more certain that you are going to mess up. The fear of judgment is the violation of love/connection and significance. If you are certain you are going to be judged negatively (which you may not be) you are going to feel very uncertain about how your going to perform on stage.
If you value comfort as an emotion you will want to hide way and stay certain you will not experience any discomfort. This is communicated to your conscious from your unconscious via internal representational systems. Mainly:
Visual (the images you see in your mind's eye)
Auditory (the sounds and tones you hear inside your mind)
Kinesthetic (body awareness, touch, balance, emotions)
Your map (beliefs and values) is designed by you for you to meet as much needs as possible. People have some great maps that support them while other have maps that does not support them. This process leads to a decision which fundamentally comes down to avoiding pain (violation of needs) and/or gaining pleasure (fulfilling needs). Some people violate some needs to gain other needs.
I hope this makes sense and I probably made some mistakes in my writing but I'm learning.
Love,
Seb
Thursday 20 May 2010
Numbing The Drive
Many people fall into the cultural hypnosis and social proof that says “you must work hard to earn a living.” But this is usually backed up with the presupposition that you are going to work for somebody else. Create something for yourself otherwise there are plenty of other people that will want you to do work for their creations. I also remember something Jason Mraz said – “a lot of the time we get stuck in what we think we have to do. This job that I think I’m supposed to have. I’ll take a vacation in a couple of months that will be my time. No! This is your time. If going to work is want you what and have to do then you can still make it your time.”
When did people stop being true to themselves? I see the majority of people over weight and smoking today. These are the cultural methods to feel comfortable when feeling uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable about being over weight? What if that feeling gets stronger? What do you do? You get some FOOD to feel comfortable. If you smoke then the doctor said that your health is at great risk. You stress over the fearful future and reach for a smoke to calm down. These two habits are agents of numbing courage and drive. Instead of reaching for another piece of food or fag why don’t people use those negative feelings for drive to get them out of this cycle? It is because giving up this behaviour is more painful than keeping it.
Our human nature is to avid pain and to gain pleasure. These are the two directing forces of human behaviour. But often people do a lot of odd and illogical things to attain pleasure and primarily avoid pain. Why do some people self harm when they feel hopeless and depressed? Surly they are causing more pain on top of pain? Pain and pleasure are determined by the six human needs.
1. Certainty (comfort/control/safety)
2. Variation (surprise/stimulation/excitement)
3. Significance (needed/worthiness/superior)
4. Love/connection
5. Growth
6. Contribution
These are human needs, not wants or desires. These are universal needs that all human in every part of the world shares. When all your needs are met in high levels you feel incredibly fulfilled. When the needs are not being met you feel like shit. Everybody has different maps on how to meet these needs. If someone is feeling depressed (meaning the present is devastating their needs and/or the future will do as well) and they self harm themselves they do this to meet their needs while they cannot think of anything else more empowering. When feeling overwhelmed you focus and believe that you can not do anything to change the painful situation. So something else must be done to get out of the pain. Self harm could meet the needs of certainty because now you feel you have control over your pain. You may feel a variation of state but most of all possibly you are self harming yourself because is a significant problem which shouts out for significant love and connection. I may not be accurate but usually self harm meets the needs of certainty, significance, and love/connection. Why some people keep it a secret while other make it obvious is dependent on their belief systems.
People have stopped being true to themselves so they settle for less than they can be.. an unfulfilling life. Because it is unfulfilling people eat or smoke to fill the emotional hole. This un-satisfaction is meant to be fire fuel to get out of the painful life into a fulfilling one but people numb that with eating and smoking. Cultural beliefs hold people back from using their birth right potential to change and create life.
When did people stop being true to themselves? I see the majority of people over weight and smoking today. These are the cultural methods to feel comfortable when feeling uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable about being over weight? What if that feeling gets stronger? What do you do? You get some FOOD to feel comfortable. If you smoke then the doctor said that your health is at great risk. You stress over the fearful future and reach for a smoke to calm down. These two habits are agents of numbing courage and drive. Instead of reaching for another piece of food or fag why don’t people use those negative feelings for drive to get them out of this cycle? It is because giving up this behaviour is more painful than keeping it.
Our human nature is to avid pain and to gain pleasure. These are the two directing forces of human behaviour. But often people do a lot of odd and illogical things to attain pleasure and primarily avoid pain. Why do some people self harm when they feel hopeless and depressed? Surly they are causing more pain on top of pain? Pain and pleasure are determined by the six human needs.
1. Certainty (comfort/control/safety)
2. Variation (surprise/stimulation/excitement)
3. Significance (needed/worthiness/superior)
4. Love/connection
5. Growth
6. Contribution
These are human needs, not wants or desires. These are universal needs that all human in every part of the world shares. When all your needs are met in high levels you feel incredibly fulfilled. When the needs are not being met you feel like shit. Everybody has different maps on how to meet these needs. If someone is feeling depressed (meaning the present is devastating their needs and/or the future will do as well) and they self harm themselves they do this to meet their needs while they cannot think of anything else more empowering. When feeling overwhelmed you focus and believe that you can not do anything to change the painful situation. So something else must be done to get out of the pain. Self harm could meet the needs of certainty because now you feel you have control over your pain. You may feel a variation of state but most of all possibly you are self harming yourself because is a significant problem which shouts out for significant love and connection. I may not be accurate but usually self harm meets the needs of certainty, significance, and love/connection. Why some people keep it a secret while other make it obvious is dependent on their belief systems.
People have stopped being true to themselves so they settle for less than they can be.. an unfulfilling life. Because it is unfulfilling people eat or smoke to fill the emotional hole. This un-satisfaction is meant to be fire fuel to get out of the painful life into a fulfilling one but people numb that with eating and smoking. Cultural beliefs hold people back from using their birth right potential to change and create life.
Sylvester Stallone said in one of his Rocky films “Somewhere along the line you changed, you stopped being you. You let someone stick a finger in your face and tell you your no good. And when things got hard you start looking for something to blame… like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know – the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and kick you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. It’s not about how hard you can hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep on moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward? That’s how winners have it done. If your willing to go through all the battling to get to where you want to get then who’s got the right to stop you? Who’s got the right to tell you that? Nobody – it’s your right to listen to your gut and it’s no one’s right to say no. You have the right to be what you want to be, do what you want to do. Now, if you know what your worth then you get what your worth. If your willing to take the hit and not pointing fingers saying your not where you want to be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that isn’t you – your better than that!”
It’s worth being a kid again and dreaming of what could be. It’s not worth being numb and serious. It’s worth being passionate and curious. It’s not worth being bored and doubtful. It’s worth being alive rather than being comfortable.
It’s worth being a kid again and dreaming of what could be. It’s not worth being numb and serious. It’s worth being passionate and curious. It’s not worth being bored and doubtful. It’s worth being alive rather than being comfortable.
Cheers,
Seb
Wednesday 19 May 2010
S4C and Health Promotion
Skate 4 Cancer is a cause founded by Robert Dyer who lost his mother to cancer about ten years ago and soon after his grandma as well. From his loss he was determined to gain justice but raising awareness of cancer prevention. Rob skates miles upon miles over months to raise awareness with his team. They promote the "cure is knowledge" and indeed it is.
From many research there is knowledge that needs to be heard by the public on the case of disease. There are two elements; the placebo/nocebo effect and diet. I have written a post on my blog about the placebo/nocebo effect and how it effects the mind-body connection. The other vital issue is health. Healthy diet is essential to our biochemistry and overall health. The word "health" has connotations associated with it that make the majority of people ignore it. Most of society do not know the dynamics of the raw food diet. The raw food is the new lifestyle diet that transforms people's lives based on their health and clarity. I will not get into that too much now. The point is that there is a lot of study that proves clearly that your diet backed with your healthy psychology will lead to recovery.
The basic idea of the event consists of a rally of skateboarders who skate for 2-300 miles during one or two days and in the evening they arrive at the venue where a celebration will take place.
Prior to the celebration will be a speech to bring the health issues to the audiences attention. This will cover what I mentioned earlier.
Applied Faith
"You have tried consciously to solve this problem in every way you know how. You've tried this and you've tried that and you've tried in every way you know and you have failed utterly. Now it's time to close your eyes and get in touch with another part of your mind. The part that keeps your balance in the chair, that pumps your heart and a thousand other things your unconscious mind does for you every day." Milton Erickson
The book The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind from Joseph Murphy explains how that part of your mind works for you in magical ways. Just as Maxwell Maltz explains in his work, the unconscious mind is a goal striving mechanism. Give the unconscious mind a clear command backed with applied faith and it will strive to manifest it into your experience. Napoleon Hill teaches that you must first have a burning desire and purpose backed with applied faith.
I have found that through the contemporary teachings of the law of attraction not a lot of teachers stress the difference between what Lynne Mctaggart calls "intention" and what what Napoleon Hills calls "applied faith". Intention is the practice of impressing your thoughts into the world and expecting results to manifest. Applied faith is the practice of impressing intention into the world and your action. They both have the same principles but they each are meant in different contexts.
Practicing intention without action and momentum is a burning desire soon to die out. In order for your intention to manifest you need to take massive action as Anthony Robbins stresses! When you take massive action you then apply faith (intention). This keeps your desire burning because you have something in reality to interact with. LOA teachers explain that you should send the intention but not interfere. This is true for some things but things you want to create have to come through you not to you. If it does not come through you then the desire goes. Desire needs something in reality that faith can be applied to. The more you take action and interact with reality the more faith you can apply to the stimulation you are getting.
I hope this has made sense.
Seb
The book The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind from Joseph Murphy explains how that part of your mind works for you in magical ways. Just as Maxwell Maltz explains in his work, the unconscious mind is a goal striving mechanism. Give the unconscious mind a clear command backed with applied faith and it will strive to manifest it into your experience. Napoleon Hill teaches that you must first have a burning desire and purpose backed with applied faith.
I have found that through the contemporary teachings of the law of attraction not a lot of teachers stress the difference between what Lynne Mctaggart calls "intention" and what what Napoleon Hills calls "applied faith". Intention is the practice of impressing your thoughts into the world and expecting results to manifest. Applied faith is the practice of impressing intention into the world and your action. They both have the same principles but they each are meant in different contexts.
Practicing intention without action and momentum is a burning desire soon to die out. In order for your intention to manifest you need to take massive action as Anthony Robbins stresses! When you take massive action you then apply faith (intention). This keeps your desire burning because you have something in reality to interact with. LOA teachers explain that you should send the intention but not interfere. This is true for some things but things you want to create have to come through you not to you. If it does not come through you then the desire goes. Desire needs something in reality that faith can be applied to. The more you take action and interact with reality the more faith you can apply to the stimulation you are getting.
I hope this has made sense.
Seb
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