Modalities

I have been studying NLP recently and the amount there is to learn is amazing. I have been learning about mental strategies and representational systems recently with dip into the meta model. I get stuck in a rut from time to time because my desire and motivation to achieve a goal dials down a bit. There are motivation techniques in NLP like the visual submodality strategy which I wasn't getting much effect out of. I read earlier that people with a internal digital representation usually are less emotional. I tested this earlier by thinking of my values i.e freedom, and thought about it only using visual images. The emotional response was far more effective than having digital as the leading representational system.

While studying NLP and have Anthony Robbin's Human Needs Psychology fresh in my mind I think I have come up with a clear model to explain the general operation of humans.














At all time our brain is evaluating what things mean and what to do. Your brain codes all thought in sensory modalities (KAVOG). Your brain also associates meaning to those modalities. The meanings are the beliefs and values. Beliefs and values can be conscious or unconscious. Your beliefs and values are a map to meet the needs.

For example if you are afraid of public speaking you generally get an anxious feeling when thinking about it or being in that situation. Your mind evaluates what you believe and value about the situation. You believe that when you stand up in front of all those people you feel uncertain that you are going to connect with the audience and you feel more certain that you are going to mess up. The fear of judgment is the violation of love/connection and significance. If you are certain you are going to be judged negatively (which you may not be) you are going to feel very uncertain about how your going to perform on stage.

If you value comfort as an emotion you will want to hide way and stay certain you will not experience any discomfort. This is communicated to your conscious from your unconscious via internal representational systems. Mainly:
Visual (the images you see in your mind's eye)
Auditory (the sounds and tones you hear inside your mind)
Kinesthetic (body awareness, touch, balance, emotions)
Your map (beliefs and values) is designed by you for you to meet as much needs as possible. People have some great maps that support them while other have maps that does not support them. This process leads to a decision which fundamentally comes down to avoiding pain (violation of needs) and/or gaining pleasure (fulfilling needs). Some people violate some needs to gain other needs.

I hope this makes sense and I probably made some mistakes in my writing but I'm learning.

Love,
Seb

Numbing The Drive

Many people fall into the cultural hypnosis and social proof that says “you must work hard to earn a living.” But this is usually backed up with the presupposition that you are going to work for somebody else. Create something for yourself otherwise there are plenty of other people that will want you to do work for their creations. I also remember something Jason Mraz said – “a lot of the time we get stuck in what we think we have to do. This job that I think I’m supposed to have. I’ll take a vacation in a couple of months that will be my time. No! This is your time. If going to work is want you what and have to do then you can still make it your time.”

When did people stop being true to themselves? I see the majority of people over weight and smoking today. These are the cultural methods to feel comfortable when feeling uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable about being over weight? What if that feeling gets stronger? What do you do? You get some FOOD to feel comfortable. If you smoke then the doctor said that your health is at great risk. You stress over the fearful future and reach for a smoke to calm down. These two habits are agents of numbing courage and drive. Instead of reaching for another piece of food or fag why don’t people use those negative feelings for drive to get them out of this cycle? It is because giving up this behaviour is more painful than keeping it.

Our human nature is to avid pain and to gain pleasure. These are the two directing forces of human behaviour. But often people do a lot of odd and illogical things to attain pleasure and primarily avoid pain. Why do some people self harm when they feel hopeless and depressed? Surly they are causing more pain on top of pain? Pain and pleasure are determined by the six human needs.

1. Certainty (comfort/control/safety)
2. Variation (surprise/stimulation/excitement)
3. Significance (needed/worthiness/superior)
4. Love/connection
5. Growth
6. Contribution

These are human needs, not wants or desires. These are universal needs that all human in every part of the world shares. When all your needs are met in high levels you feel incredibly fulfilled. When the needs are not being met you feel like shit. Everybody has different maps on how to meet these needs. If someone is feeling depressed (meaning the present is devastating their needs and/or the future will do as well) and they self harm themselves they do this to meet their needs while they cannot think of anything else more empowering. When feeling overwhelmed you focus and believe that you can not do anything to change the painful situation. So something else must be done to get out of the pain. Self harm could meet the needs of certainty because now you feel you have control over your pain. You may feel a variation of state but most of all possibly you are self harming yourself because is a significant problem which shouts out for significant love and connection. I may not be accurate but usually self harm meets the needs of certainty, significance, and love/connection. Why some people keep it a secret while other make it obvious is dependent on their belief systems.

People have stopped being true to themselves so they settle for less than they can be.. an unfulfilling life. Because it is unfulfilling people eat or smoke to fill the emotional hole. This un-satisfaction is meant to be fire fuel to get out of the painful life into a fulfilling one but people numb that with eating and smoking. Cultural beliefs hold people back from using their birth right potential to change and create life.

Sylvester Stallone said in one of his Rocky films “Somewhere along the line you changed, you stopped being you. You let someone stick a finger in your face and tell you your no good. And when things got hard you start looking for something to blame… like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know – the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and kick you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. It’s not about how hard you can hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep on moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward? That’s how winners have it done. If your willing to go through all the battling to get to where you want to get then who’s got the right to stop you? Who’s got the right to tell you that? Nobody – it’s your right to listen to your gut and it’s no one’s right to say no. You have the right to be what you want to be, do what you want to do. Now, if you know what your worth then you get what your worth. If your willing to take the hit and not pointing fingers saying your not where you want to be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that isn’t you – your better than that!”

It’s worth being a kid again and dreaming of what could be. It’s not worth being numb and serious. It’s worth being passionate and curious. It’s not worth being bored and doubtful. It’s worth being alive rather than being comfortable.

Cheers,

Seb

S4C and Health Promotion

Skate 4 Cancer is a cause founded by Robert Dyer who lost his mother to cancer about ten years ago and soon after his grandma as well. From his loss he was determined to gain justice but raising awareness of cancer prevention. Rob skates miles upon miles over months to raise awareness with his team. They promote the "cure is knowledge" and indeed it is.

From many research there is knowledge that needs to be heard by the public on the case of disease. There are two elements; the placebo/nocebo effect and diet. I have written a post on my blog about the placebo/nocebo effect and how it effects the mind-body connection. The other vital issue is health. Healthy diet is essential to our biochemistry and overall health. The word "health" has connotations associated with it that make the majority of people ignore it. Most of society do not know the dynamics of the raw food diet. The raw food is the new lifestyle diet that transforms people's lives based on their health and clarity. I will not get into that too much now. The point is that there is a lot of study that proves clearly that your diet backed with your healthy psychology will lead to recovery.

The basic idea of the event consists of a rally of skateboarders who skate for 2-300 miles during one or two days and in the evening they arrive at the venue where a celebration will take place.



















Prior to the celebration will be a speech to bring the health issues to the audiences attention. This will cover what I mentioned earlier.

Applied Faith

"You have tried consciously to solve this problem in every way you know how. You've tried this and you've tried that and you've tried in every way you know and you have failed utterly. Now it's time to close your eyes and get in touch with another part of your mind. The part that keeps your balance in the chair, that pumps your heart and a thousand other things your unconscious mind does for you every day." Milton Erickson

The book The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind from Joseph Murphy explains how that part of your mind works for you in magical ways. Just as Maxwell Maltz explains in his work, the unconscious mind is a goal striving mechanism. Give the unconscious mind a clear command backed with applied faith and it will strive to manifest it into your experience. Napoleon Hill teaches that you must first have a burning desire and purpose backed with applied faith.

I have found that through the contemporary teachings of the law of attraction not a lot of teachers stress the difference between what Lynne Mctaggart calls "intention" and what what Napoleon Hills calls "applied faith". Intention is the practice of impressing your thoughts into the world and expecting results to manifest. Applied faith is the practice of impressing intention into the world and your action. They both have the same principles but they each are meant in different contexts.

Practicing intention without action and momentum is a burning desire soon to die out. In order for your intention to manifest you need to take massive action as Anthony Robbins stresses! When you take massive action you then apply faith (intention). This keeps your desire burning because you have something in reality to interact with. LOA teachers explain that you should send the intention but not interfere. This is true for some things but things you want to create have to come through you not to you. If it does not come through you then the desire goes. Desire needs something in reality that faith can be applied to. The more you take action and interact with reality the more faith you can apply to the stimulation you are getting.

I hope this has made sense.

Seb

Significance driven people

"just saw a chav break a guys nose in subway for no reason what so ever.. :-/ hate the lack of justice in the world.."

My friend posted on a news feed. I automatically think of what needs people meet whenever I hear these stories. Studying human needs psychology you learn there are six primal needs that drive everyone to do what they do. The first four are needs of the human personality and everybody meets one or more of these needs at all times.
1 - certainty
2 - variation
3 - significance
4 - love/connection
The last two are the needs of the human being. These needs are the ones that make you feel alive and fulfilled.
5 - growth
6 - contribution
Some people can't meet the last two so they battle between the first four. The first and second needs are in paradox because people need certainty but at the same time need uncertainty for stimulation. The third and fourth are in paradox because everybody needs to feel significant or needed but when doing so that usually corrupts the forth need for love/connection. When people act significant around the people they seek love/connection it creates conflicts. You see this everywhere.

This man who broke this guy's nose must have done it to meet some of his needs for significance and certainty that he can be in control. In this situation of braking someone's nose he is getting some variation and he feels emotionally stimulated. But this nose breaker was not alone.

"if it was just one guy i think i would have killed him.. or at least broke his legs off.. but it was about 5 guys :-/"

My friend updated the news feed to explain that there was a group of them which makes it clearer that the nose breaker was doing it for significance, connection, variation backed up with certainty. He was with his friends who all are after a 'rush' so they are seeking a target to bully. He broke the nose because it makes him feel significant because he is inflicting pain on this man. He is certain that this man will not retaliate because the nose breaker has four other nose breakers with him. He is getting connection with his friends because he is showing them how significant he is and they are all sharing the situation together. They are all experiencing great variation because it is uncertain what is going to happen - it's a rush.

"well, he was sat there with two girls, a chav was in the doorway an shouted to him moosh are u licking that? pointing at the girl.. :-/ then he said no.. then the guy was like are u getting moufy!! came in with 2 more of the guys.. one of them said il snap ur jore moosh.. then he kinda gave the impression as if to say pfft kewl whatever.. so the ... See Moreguy walked up an smacked him.. there was loadsa blood an his nose was really snapped up."

The news feed was updated to explain the situation in more detail. The man in the subway was with two girls. The nose breaker creates a situation where he can connect with this man and two girls. Now the nose breaker then breaks a nose because it gives him a feeling of being 'hard' in front of the girls and his mates. It excites him and because he is with his mates he is certain he won't experience any painful consequences.

"the girl called 999 an they said just walk to the hospital.. :-/ they also said naa if the guys had gone they wudnt send the police.. actual rediculous..."

Then the group left before they could be in any possibility of any negative consequences.

Other people fulfill the same needs by saving a life, helping the needed, achieving, or playing competitive games. It all depends on how you have learned to meet your needs.

Leadership Psychology

"Usually after great pain people begin to make new choices. People start to appreciate things they take for granted like great freedoms. This can truly serve. Its up to us whether it does or not. You must make a vision of something greater. See it as it is then see it better than it is. Then make it the way you now see it. That what a leader does they create a vision for more.

Think about all the people right now that are laughing. If you could absorb all their laughter in your body. All over the earth there are people laughing right now. All over the world right now there are people kissing. Right now. All over the world, if your going to absorb all the pain you may as well take up all of humanities love too. Because otherwise your not picking up balance.

If you look for the good its always there. Whats wrong is always available and so it whats right. Right now there are children being born into a world where they will be loved. Right now there are people being saved in hospitals all across this country. Right now there are people's lives that are being turned around by people who care. Everywhere in this moment life is brewing and growing and expanding all over this earth. Life always moves forward, it never moves backward. Children are laughing, people are achieving."

Anthony Robbins

Outstanding

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3])

Paraphrase;

"What stops us from going the great distance is our fear. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. “Who am I to be great, powerful and proud” you ask? Who are you not to be? Playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that others around you don't feel insecure. We are all meant to shine as children. Its not just in some of us, its in everyone of us. As we let our own light shine we unconsciously give others the permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, so are they."