"just saw a chav break a guys nose in subway for no reason what so ever.. :-/ hate the lack of justice in the world.."
My friend posted on a news feed. I automatically think of what needs people meet whenever I hear these stories. Studying human needs psychology you learn there are six primal needs that drive everyone to do what they do. The first four are needs of the human personality and everybody meets one or more of these needs at all times.
1 - certainty
2 - variation
3 - significance
4 - love/connection
The last two are the needs of the human being. These needs are the ones that make you feel alive and fulfilled.
5 - growth
6 - contribution
Some people can't meet the last two so they battle between the first four. The first and second needs are in paradox because people need certainty but at the same time need uncertainty for stimulation. The third and fourth are in paradox because everybody needs to feel significant or needed but when doing so that usually corrupts the forth need for love/connection. When people act significant around the people they seek love/connection it creates conflicts. You see this everywhere.
This man who broke this guy's nose must have done it to meet some of his needs for significance and certainty that he can be in control. In this situation of braking someone's nose he is getting some variation and he feels emotionally stimulated. But this nose breaker was not alone.
"if it was just one guy i think i would have killed him.. or at least broke his legs off.. but it was about 5 guys :-/"
My friend updated the news feed to explain that there was a group of them which makes it clearer that the nose breaker was doing it for significance, connection, variation backed up with certainty. He was with his friends who all are after a 'rush' so they are seeking a target to bully. He broke the nose because it makes him feel significant because he is inflicting pain on this man. He is certain that this man will not retaliate because the nose breaker has four other nose breakers with him. He is getting connection with his friends because he is showing them how significant he is and they are all sharing the situation together. They are all experiencing great variation because it is uncertain what is going to happen - it's a rush.
"well, he was sat there with two girls, a chav was in the doorway an shouted to him moosh are u licking that? pointing at the girl.. :-/ then he said no.. then the guy was like are u getting moufy!! came in with 2 more of the guys.. one of them said il snap ur jore moosh.. then he kinda gave the impression as if to say pfft kewl whatever.. so the ... See Moreguy walked up an smacked him.. there was loadsa blood an his nose was really snapped up."
The news feed was updated to explain the situation in more detail. The man in the subway was with two girls. The nose breaker creates a situation where he can connect with this man and two girls. Now the nose breaker then breaks a nose because it gives him a feeling of being 'hard' in front of the girls and his mates. It excites him and because he is with his mates he is certain he won't experience any painful consequences.
"the girl called 999 an they said just walk to the hospital.. :-/ they also said naa if the guys had gone they wudnt send the police.. actual rediculous..."
Then the group left before they could be in any possibility of any negative consequences.
Other people fulfill the same needs by saving a life, helping the needed, achieving, or playing competitive games. It all depends on how you have learned to meet your needs.
Tuesday, 11 May 2010
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